sc 161 On The Subject of Bullying.

Soon after recording this, Toppie reluctantly decided not to publish it.  It seemed too much — too emotional — too unfocused — too personal.  Toppie says, “it ended up being more about me than it was about the string of suicides of youths who were either gay or perceived to be gay back in late 2010, and at the time, that just wasn’t what I wanted.”  For whatever it may be worth, here now is that recording.  It’s about bullying in schools.  Toppie hopes that it makes at least a little bit of sense.

The show art is an old photo of Toppie and his fellow nerd friends including (looking right into the camera on the far right) “Sonny,” who was bullied more than any human being should ever have to endure.

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2 Responses to “sc 161 On The Subject of Bullying.”

  1. Jay Y Says:

    Hey, Toppie. Very powerful episode. Brought back many memories, pleasant and unpleasant. I do think you need to forgive yourself for not helping Sonny. You had no way of knowing what the bully’s intention was and having a knife at one’s throat is a very precarious position. Fortunately, everything turned out okay. That being said, we do need to all stick up for each other.


    • toppiesmellie Says:

      What is astonishing to me now is that even after the incident was over, neither Sonny nor myself ever talked about it. And we never went to any adult to tell them what had happened. THAT’S SCREWED UP! I hope that it’s different today in schools, but I doubt it. Had I been taught the disciplines of self defense, I might POSSIBLY been able to distract or disarm him (its equally possible someone — Sonny — could have wound up truly injured). But at the VERY LEAST, I would have been compelled by virtue of my self defense training to (later) take the problem to adults, some authority or even the police. Had all students been trained in self defense, all those watching this take place might have been empowered to act, even in some small fashion — even if it was just to run and tell an adult (which nobody did).

      Well. I do understand what you mean about forgiving oneself. And probably in some ways, intellectually I have forgiven myself — given those times and circumstances. Emotionally however, the memory still carries with it great regret.


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